Hey everyone :)
So I was asked to write this up a few months ago, but I've had a lot of thought on how to actually combat this request - it's not an easy thing to give advice and say that it'll work 100%. Because it won't.
There isn't a magic potion out there than can guarantee that the person you like, will like you.
You have to remember that: Everyone has their own preferences; for example someone will have a certain 'type' that they like. People are fussy. And there is no way around it, unless they're willing to really get to know you regardless of how you look, your age, or whatever it is that is considered a 'difference'.
If the person you like is going to be like this, then don't worry because it's their loss and not yours. If they don't want to properly get to know you because of a minor preference then that's their own fault.
So, I'm not leaving this all on a bad note, so here are some tips on how to get someone to like you! :
1) Be normal aka Don't be a perv:
Have you ever received an email or a Facebook message from someone who says, "Hey ;)" or "Your picture is so gorjussss ;)". The whole ';)' is one emoticon that IS NOT appropriate when talking to someone for the first time.
Not only does it look quite pervy, but it also comes across as desperate.
If you really want to talk to someone, talk normally. Say something that will get a conversation started like, "Hey, you alright?" See, that doesn't sound weird, or pervy, or desperate. It's normal!
2) Be a friend aka Don't be a desperate person who rushes into things too quickly:
I don't know if you've ever been in a situation and you're talking to someone, and after a day of talking, they start talking about how much they want to date you. Especially when they've never met you before.
If you've never met someone and you like them, be more of their friend and properly get to know them! You cannot go wrong with being someones friend first, and seeing if there is 'something there' before rushing into telling them your feelings.
It's best to get to know someone first; what are their favourite TV shows, what things are they passionate about, what are they scared off etc. It's just good to know what you're getting yourself into :)
3) Be a friend pt II aka Don't be self centred:
By this I mean, when you talk to them, TALK to them about things that involve them. If you really want them to like you, you're going to need to get them involved properly in your conversation. It's annoying when you're talking to someone and they're just talking about themselves. Like you could doze off for 5 minutes and they're still talking about themselves.
It does let someone know that you're interested when you show interest in them, in what they like, in what they're doing.
I don't know something more off putting about someone to be honest.. If someone wants to talk to you about themselves and A LOAD of their problems (especially on a first date or in the early stages of getting to know them), you need to let them know that you're not their psychiatrist.
4) Be happy :) aka Don't be negative:
A lot of people when they start talking to someone don't realise this, but sometimes they come out with negative things. Being someone who likes to be optimistic and look at the good things in life, I dislike when people say things like, "I look horrible" or "No one wants to be with me" - unless they mean it as in a joke. But when someone generally feels that way, then I honestly think they need time to themselves and really think about their lives.
I personally couldn't wouldn't want to be with someone who thinks of themselves really negatively... Although I can understand if someone is having a bad day, or a rough patch and they're feeling bad - but it doesn't mean that you need to show your vulnerable side to someone you're wanting to be with. Some people can handle it, others can't - and therefore they will get put off.
5) Take it easy aka Don't become too attached:
One thing that you need to understand is that you don't own anyone, and that if someone isn't talking to you, it doesn't mean anything. Do not over think situations and think "Shit, why isn't that person talking to me?"
Truthfully, if someone really wants to be in your life, they will make that effort and talk to you, and have a decent conversation with you. Don't force something that isn't there, don't conjure up things to make you believe that there is something there when there isn't. It will only lead to you getting hurt! :(
To stop yourself from doing this, just enjoy life! Talk to other people, go out, spend time with family and friends and do things that you enjoy :)
The worst thing to do is stay at home and keep thinking about that one person and wonder why they're not messaging/calling you, and if they're thinking about you.
This is quite a hard question to tackle and it's not a guaranteed thing.. But I hope this advice helps you in some way and you get the guy/girl that you've always wanted :)